“We are beginning to understand what ails us, and it’s not something an oxygen facial or a treadmill desk can fix.”
Anne Helen Petersen | Buzzfeed | Jan 2019This is VERY good and VERY depressing
“The exhaustion experienced in burnout combines an intense yearning for this state of completion with the tormenting sense that it cannot be attained, that there is always some demand or anxiety or distraction which can’t be silenced,”
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I just finished reading this article! It got better and better with each paragraph. I gasped several times in self-recognition. Everyone should read it.
This is an incredibly well-written and detailed article that hits way too close to home. Everything is relatable in a deep, saddening and truthful way. Really recommend this read as it gives insight to what many of our current experiences and struggles are as ‘‘millennials.’
(via artsyeccentric)
How to Grow the Fuck Up: Guides to Life
I know it can be a nightmare to dig through the tags and see all those asks and not the guides. So here is a handy-dandy list of all the “official” how-to posts.
FYI: This used to be a rude advice blog. It is not any longer. Some of the really old guides still use that format, but as they are updated with more information, they’re edited to fit the new, less abrasive format. For more info, please visit the about page.
All posts are written by Jez (@typesetjez, formerly called “The Responsible One”) unless otherwise noted.
Apartments/Houses/Moving
- Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 1: Are You Sure?
- Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 2: Finding the Damn Apartment
- Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 3: Questions to Ask about the Damn Apartment
- Moving Out and Getting an Apartment, Part 4: Packing and Moving All of Your Shit
- How to Protect Your Home Against Break-Ins
- How to (Fairly) Share a Parking Spot
- Everything You Need for Your First Apartment
Civic Duty
Consumer Information
- How to Open a Bar Tab by The Sudden Adult
- Bar Etiquette by The Sudden Adult
- Customer Etiquette - tag, mostly follower suggestions
- How, Who, and When to Tip in the US
- What to Expect from a Salon Appointment
Education
- How to Find a Fucking College by The Sudden Adult
- How to Find Some Fucking Money for College by The Sudden Adult
- What to Do When You Can’t Afford Your #1 Post-Secondary School by The Sudden Adult
- Stop Shitting on Community College Kids (Why Community College is Fucking Awesome)
- How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter
- How to Choose a College Major by The Sudden Adult
- What’s the Deal with 3-Hour Classes: a List of Pros and Cons
- Reasons to Take a Foreign Language in High School
- What You Really Need to Bring to College (And What You Can Leave Behind)
- Essentials for Commuting Students
- Survival Tips for Commuting Students
- How to Tell Your Professor You’ll Be Missing Classes
- College Tours: What to Expect and What to Ask
Finances
- How to Write a Goddamn Check
- How to Build Credit and Prove You Can Handle Your Finances
- Debit vs Credit
- What to Do if Your Wallet is Stolen/Lost by The Sudden Adult
- Budgeting 101
- Important Tax Links to Know
- How to Choose a Bank Without Screwing Yourself
- What to Know before Sharing a Bank Account
- Pay Your Credit Card Immediately vs. Waiting for the Bill
- 57 Ways the Library Can Save You Money & Improve Your Life
Health
- How to Stop Whining and Make a Damn Appointment
- How to Deal with a Chemical Burn
- How to Take Care of Yourself When You’re Sick
- Deal with your Wisdom Teeth Pain, You Baby
- Should I See an OBGYN? A Q&A for Vagina Owners
- How to Survive Your Mental Health on a Daily Basis with the help of guest blogger @tinyadventureclub
- 44 Things You Probably Didn’t Know about Therapy
Home Life & Cleaning
- How Not to Live in Filth by The Sudden Adult
- Grow Up and Buy Your Own Groceries
- How to Do Your Laundry Without Ruining Your Wardrobe
- How to Unclog Your Drain [Without Chemicals]
- How to Clean Linoleum Floors
- How to Care for Your Pillows
- Dealing with Weevils (AKA Flour Bugs)
- Dealing with Silverfish
Important Documents
- How to Get a Copy of Your Birth Certificate
- How to Get a Replacement ID
- How to Get a Replacement Social Security or Green Card
Job Hunting & Work Life
- Create a Plan for Job Hunting Success
- How to Write a Resume Like a Boss
- How to Write a Cover Letter Someone Will Actually Read
- How to Handle a Phone Interview without Fucking Up
- 10 Sites to Start Your Job Search
- Best Sites to Post Your Resume
- 10 Ways to Win at Job Fairs
- How to Ace Your Skype Interview
- How to Crush It at Your Interview
- Questions to Ask in an Interview [Resource Links]
- Interview Tips for (Public) Librarians
- How to Avoid Falling into a Pit of Despair While Job Hunting
- 20 Random Tips for Surviving a Library Job
- Who to Use as a Character (Personal) Reference
Life Skills
- Staying in Touch with Friends/Family by The Sudden Adult
- How to Make a List of Goals
- How to Ask a Good Question
- How to Improve Your Typing Speed
- When to Use “Who” and “Whom”
Miscellaneous
- How to (Safely) Celebrate with Fireworks
- 100 Mostly Helpful Tips for Life
- Tiny Adventure Guide - Live Adventurously! from our sister site, @tinyadventureclub
Relationships
- Marriage: What the Fuck Does It Mean and How the Hell Do I Know When I’m Ready? (Guest post - The Northwest Adult)
- How Fucked Are You for Moving In with Your Significant Other: An Interview with an Actual Real-Life Couple Living Together™ (mintypineapple and catastrofries)
- How to Stay in Contact During a Long-Distance Relationship
- Where to Make Friends as an Adult by The Sudden Adult
Self Care, Beauty, & Fashion
- How to Find the Right Heels for You
- Get Rid of Acne - Fast!
- An Introduction to Bras
- How to Prevent Acne & Wrinkles
- Dress Codes and What They Actually Mean
- Clothing to Buy When Moving to a Colder Climate
Travel & Vehicles
- How to Winterize Your Piece of Shit Vehicle
- How to Make Public Transportation Your Bitch
- How to Survive Plane Trips by The Sudden Adult
- What to Do After a Car Accident by The Sudden Adult
Other Blog Features
- Tuesday Twitter Round-Up (links to relevant articles - Posts regularly on Tuesdays)
- Adulting Wins (Posts regularly on Wednesdays)
- Adulting Fails (Posts regularly on Fridays)
- Success Stories
- Follower Map - Add yourself & let’s see how far this lil blog can reach
If you don’t see what you’re looking for, go ahead and ask. But first, check the List of Things I Cannot/Will Not Answer.
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(via wilwheaton)
An interesting meditation on misogyny, queerphobia, life as a member of the working class, and how rich people are all real fuckin weird
(contains frank discussions of all those things + drug use)
(via fuckyeahwarriorwomen)
Hey everyone! I’m opening commissions. If you’ve ever wanted your D&D character, your OC, or a friend’s characters drawn, I’ll do it if you pay me haha ^^
Message me here on tumblr if you’re interested - I’m opening ten spots right now, and if they fill I’ll close them until I’m done and then reopen. Payment is always through Paypal, and I send the initial sketch/color ideas before asking for payment so that I can make any necessary changes and you know i’m working on the piece.
I am, however, only taking original character commissions this round - I don’t want to have to worry about the legality of selling fanart. As long as the character(s) you want me to draw belongs to you or people you know, you’re all good.
(via filibusterfrog)
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A friendly guide to describing your OCs (to your artists):
-When describing them, DON`T:
✿ Write 3 pages about your character. One paragraph is more than okay. A few pages for just a general idea of your character will be unconfortable for your artist to keep handy and picture your character correctly.
✿ Include their backstory. Its irrelevant for your artist to know all the details for your ocs personal life.
✿ Just say “its a nice guy :)” try to use descriptive, objective words to describe briefly their personality. The same can be applied to “shes beautiful”. What is beautiful to you? Talk about their specific features!
-Please DO:
✿ Keep it short and simple.
✿ Include their personality! Facial features mean nothing if we dont know what their demeanor is like! Want expressive art? Be sure to include their personality.
✿ Be as objective as you can. Talk about their body shape, the size and shape of their nose, the color of their hair, specific markings, etc.
blease
I think backstories are cool n all but if I’m getting through a commission queue, I don’t have time to set aside and read them.
I commission other artists like I prefer to be commissioned.
-I provide an image gallery/reference gallery (often with work of the same character done by me or another artist, but sometimes just references and face claims if that’s all I have.)
-Give like a 1 sentence/4 word description of their personality (example: tired, sarcastic, regal, secretly compassionate.)
-and then any additional notes that might be hard to see otherwise (eye color, a specific scar, a tattoo, etc.)Sometimes I’ll provide a short backstory summary buuut if I do, it’s rarely more than a paragraph and I preface it with “The following is not mandatory information to read! Just backstory stuff!” and I put it at the very end.
Make your commission email EASY TO READ and CONCISE and your artist will LOVE YOU
YEEEEESSSS
Also having all that info in a dense paragraph makes it really hard to go back and find that one thing I’m looking for. Like if I’m coloring and I don’t remember what the eye color was supposed to be it’s a lot harder to find it hidden in a dramatically written dense paragraph than to find it in a simple list/short paragraph about the face.
#truth
This is Beautiful ™.
What was that sign about Fox News? “Rich people telling middle-class people to hate poor people”? Yyyup.
(Source: liberalsarecool, via wilwheaton)
Thrilling Adventure Hour Mixes
Since TAH is back, I thought I’d make a list of the mixes I’ve made over the years.
- Nightmares the Clown: Do Not Taunt the Demon Clown Monster
- Constance Tick-Tock: He Wanted Time, She Wanted Space (this also goes with a fic)
- The Hobo Princess & Banjo Bindlestuff
- A Farewell Mix to TAH: Pour Me Another
- The Bucatino Family
- Frank & Sadie Doyle: The Toast of the Upper Crust
- The Saloon Doors: La Diabla
- Gene Peeples: For the Captain of the Orsino and the Olivia
- Sparks Nevada, Marshal on Mars: 46 Minutes on Mars
- Croach the Tracker
